German radical lefties WOLF DOWN have parted their ways after their guitarist Tobi was accused of rape and sexual abuse from two women. Furthermore, more allegations from the band’s former vocalist and current VENOM PRISON vocalist Larrisa emerged! Larrisaq claims to have been abused by WOFL DOWN’s drummer Sven! She commented:
I have known Tobias and Sven to be bigoted sexist pricks with an ill perception of women.
Having been in a relationship with Sven, the drummer, for over 7 years I was abused in more than one way, it continued even after we were through.
He tried to turn my family against me and called friends and friends of friends late at night to know about my whereabouts and so on.
He is a sociopathic patriarch through and through, and from what I know he has not changed a bit over the years.”
WOLF DOWN canceled their upcoming tour with STRAY FROM THE PATH and CAPSIZE, and are no longer a band. STRAY FROM THE PATH are seeking a replacement for the band’s support slot on their upcoming European trek.
Here’s the full controversial message by WOLF DOWN:
You may or may not have heard of the accusations that are spreading around the internet about a member of our band. As it is a topic, that is very sensitive and important to us, we don’t want to leave it without our comment. We want to express a trigger warning, as this post mentions sexual abuse and rape. Therefore, we are going to separate this introduction from the message itself now by putting some space in between.
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Last night, two womyn, who had been in different kinds of relationships with our guitarist Tobi, went public with accusations against him for sexual abuse and rape. We are writing this post in the knowledge, that the affected persons demand accounting from our side. Tobi had told us earlier and given his way of dealing with the accusations, we chose to let him speak:
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“I met the person that holds the accusations against me, last year in February. During that time, I have to admit, that my sexual self-reflection concerning the right approach to consensual sex had not yet been brought to the same level as my otherwise radical-leftwing convictions. I feel ashamed for that. Before having sex for the first time, we hadn’t talked about our own negative experiences concerning sex, we hadn’t talked about our wishes and, most importantly, about our personal no-go’s. I acted nonreflective and without consideration of the consequences; it never came to my mind that it was wrong to think “if something doesn’t please my partner, she will let me know”, that the guideline shouldn’t be “no means no”, but “yes means yes” and anything less is in fact a “no”. And I was as stubborn as to not simply accept her not feeling well about things, but keeping on discussing with her about it. So basically, during that time I did things to her for which I didn’t ask for her consent, during otherwise nonverbally consensual sex. I am not going into detail out of respect for her own privacy. However, I never noticed that she was feeling bad and I feel incredibly shortsighted not having noticed. Some time later, she told me, that she had been a victim of sexual abuse and rape in childhood and encountered rape by another man before, while she was passed out drunk. She was the first person in my life, who told me about such things from a first hand perspective, so obviously (but yet so unknowingly hypocritical) I was shocked and didn’t really know how to deal with that information. With great shame, I also have to admit that I didn’t realize what my own behavior had meant to her until a few weeks ago. Given the fact, that we had been a couple for months after that, until this years April, having sex, discussing politics, feminist issues and even my behavior, going on holiday together and such, has nothing to do with a slow process of her realizing, what I had done to her. I learnt, that the persons realization of what abusive behavior had meant to her, can take a long time, even years.
As a consequence of that, I have to admit to have taken her accusations way too lightly. I had apologized to her and told her, I wouldn’t make those same mistakes again. She even mentioned, she could “forgive, but not forget”. Hence she broke up with me and as it was a slow process for her, too, she confronted me about it only by April – after months of having referred to what I had done as a “trigger”, she now called it a type of rape. Being confronted with the term first, I was shocked and my reaction was defensive. By now, I changed my mind about it. Two weeks ago, we had a fight in which I used inconsiderate explanations, that sounded like a justification of my actions, but were not meant as such, so things started escalating.
These incidents were not the only incidents in my past relationships that I have to account for, there has been accusations about mentally abusive behavior from my side with other women, too. As woman #2 mentioned in the outing-post, I have to account for a very common problem in heterosexual sexual relationships, which is being a part of fucked up asymetrical power relations and expectations between man and woman. It feels surreal, that I’ve been calling myself a feminist for years, but played a part in fucked up patriarchal mechanisms and rape culture. A culture that teaches men to take “what is theirs” without asking and that blames women for the consequences. A culture that pressures men to take the active role and forces women to take the passive one. I deeply apologize for that.
I wouldn’t ever want to justify anything I did, I would never want to be one of the assholes that deny or trivialise their actions. I take all the blame for my actions and I’m the only one, who is to blame.
It is incredibly painful to realize, that I have hurt womyn in such a bad way. I do realize however, that the pain I feel is ridiculously petty to the pain I inflicted. I feel deeply sorry in the name of all womyn who have ever been subjected to male violence. And I do think that the private realm is political, most of all being part of a band with political aspirations. I could never deny what I did, most of all because my moral and political principles stay the same, I still stand against patriarchy and I still support the feminist struggle, even if I had to realize that I have been everything I despised for so long, that I played my own part in a system that degrades women and is responsible for their death.
What I’m doing now is consulting a psychotherapist and reflecting on my own abusive behavior, educating myself about the topic, trying and learning about the correct way of having sexual intercourse in a consensual way. I will face the consequences of my behavior, I have to make sure that I will never again hurt another person in a similar way. The women I have been with recently can prove my honest and genuine intentions of accounting for my actions and can also prove that I am changing for the better. But it’s still a long way to go.
If this sparks some discussion within the hardcore scene, it’s long overdue. Sexual assaults at hardcore and punk shows are happening and have to be talked about. Verbally articulated consent is an important thing. Creating an atmosphere, that makes it easy to speak out doubts or rejections. An atmosphere where both parties know, that they’re respected and that only “yes means yes”. Everything I failed to create.
As a consequence of that, I will be withdrawing from my position as a guitarist for Wolf Down. Please take into consideration that this issue is a very sensitive matter to the women affected, so be respectful and think twice before posting.”
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Even though Tobi informed us recently we as a band did not act public in respect to the victims. We wanted to leave the decision to them, since their voices are the ones that matter the most. We distance ourselves from his behaviour and stand with the victims. The consequences we are taking are not a reaction to the outing but a result of reflecting on the situation.
Now being additionally faced with the accusations against Sven we (Dave & Pascal) came to the conclusion that Wolf Down can no longer be a band.
Here’s the statement by the victims:
after everything that has happened during the last 48 hours, tobi’s statement and wolf down breaking up, we as the victims want to publish one last statement. we do not want to allow the perpetrator to have the last word. this time, we are publishing in english, because after our first statement there was a great demand for translations and we want as much people as possible to be able to read what we have to say.
we apologize for any mistakes – this is not our native language and as we both come from a working class, low-educated background, we are not practiced expressing ourselves in the polished lawyer-english that tobi uses. anyways, we want to spit out our anger again, even though our words are raw and clumsy.
reading tobi’s statement felt like a fucking joke for us. the fact that he was allowed to take up so much space, to explain and justify himself with so many hollow words leaves us shocked. it is a good decision the band split up – and in our eyes the only decent one. but instead of publishing our words on their facebook site, followed by a simple explanation that obviously these circumstances make it impossible to go on posing as a radical leftwing group, they tried to save what was left of their image. tobi’s words range from hypocritical to disgusting. he writes: “my sexual self-reflection concerning the right approach to consensual sex had not yet been brought to the same level as my otherwise radical-leftwing convictions”. we do not understand why he seems to believe that understanding how consensual sex works is a political/intellectual challenge. being a decent human being should not be something that you need a process of several years for, like forming an opinion on the correlation between state and capital or some other deep shit.
still, he has not understood a lot of things even though he claims to be magically enlightened now. “I did things to her for which I didn‘t ask for her consent, during otherwise nonverbally consensual sex” – doing things you don‘t have consent for makes the whole sex nonconsensual you prick. tobi also states that at least he kept the principle “no means no”, which is simply not true: a “no” always meant “try to convince me” to him, which build up a lot of pressure, especially with the imbalance in power that he produced with all of his abusive behaviour.
tobi is so afraid of losing his life as the “cool antifa dude” but doesn‘t even have the guts to write out the word “rape” and instead uses “type of rape”. he also lies about when he wrote me he felt “not guilty” of what happened because he was “brought up in a bavarian village” where nobody would teach him about consent. this happened on 20th of june and not “two weeks ago” as he claims.
furthermore he writes: “It feels surreal, that I‘ve been calling myself a feminist for years, but played a part in fucked up patriarchal mechanisms and rape culture. A culture that teaches men to take „what is theirs“ without asking and that blames women for the consequences. A culture that pressures men to take the active role and forces women to take the passive one.” it feels fucking disgusting and horrifying for leftwing women like us to read those lines. many of us joined the movement to escape the cruel environment that patriarchy produces and try to fight our way towards a world with freedom and without sexual violence for ourselves and our sisters. knowing that we maintain this struggle alongside male “allies” who are in no way better than the patriarchs and abusers we want to escape weakens and discourages us and the movement itself. lately we have been thinking a lot about all the amazing, talented women we know and how much time we all have to spend on recovering from trauma and dealing with the harm done to us by men who publicly claim to be feminists. THIS IS NO LONGER ACCEPTABLE. and we want to make clear that our greatest hope in this outing and everything we publish is not people burning their wolf down shirts (even though we appreciate it as an act of solidarity) but every man reading our lines asking themselves if they recognize some of their behaviour in the actions we describe and denounce. know that women are real people with feelings and shit and that more and more of us will speak up. you will be held accountable for your actions.we could go on and on picking to pieces what tobi calls an apology. but there is other, more important stuff left to say and we do not want to carry on giving him and his opinion on what happened so much room. just another few words on the other wolf down members: dave and pascal are in no way clueless angels. they knew about tobi’s and sven’s behaviour regarding women all these years and they knew about the rape accusations since two weeks at least. of course they have no damn choice continuing a band with two people but they couldn‘t know we were going to make our stories with tobi public. what they call “respect to the victims” was really the hope of wriggling their way out of this without anything happening and continuing with the band as if nothing happened. both of them know us. they know our names, our faces, they have shared conversations and meals with us during times we were tobi’s girlfriends. they know ways to easily contact us on social media. but they didn‘t offer us any help or support at all since tobi confessed to them. besides, pascal and tommy watched larissa being maltreated until she left the band and her ex-boyfriend drummer sven and tobi starting to use wolf down as a way to hook up with girls. yesterday, the day the outing went viral, larissa posted a statement on facebook. for everyone who hasn‘t seen it yet, this is what she came out with after years of staying silent:
“I left Wolf Down about 3 years ago now and people still asking me as to why. I always referred to it as personal reasons which they were. The experiences that I had made shortly before I called it quits have been unbearable and I didn’t want anything more than escaping the toxic environment that had been created within this band. I have known Tobias and Sven to be bigoted sexist pricks with an ill perception of women. They never made it a secret and were openly objectifying women, sharing pictures and stories between them. Having been in a relationship with Sven, the drummer, for over 7 years I was abused in more than one way, it continued even after we were through. He tried to turn my family against me and called friends and friends of friends late at night to know about my whereabouts and so on. Sven is in no way the feminist he claims to be, he is a sociopathic patriarch through and through, and from what I know he has not changed a bit over the years. Enough is enough. I stand with the victims.”
we have to say that we are shocked about other women contacting us since we published the outing, telling us about bad experiences with tobi and sven. besides, we both have encountered so many more situations where their blatant misoginy was unbearable. some examples to illustrate a little what we‘re talking about:
– in fall ’15 wolf down were on tour and went swimming before playing a show in a german city (we believe to remember it was trier). in the swimming pool they joked and dared tommy to swim to a middle-aged woman and tell her that tobi would fancy her but wouldn‘t have the guts to talk to her himself. he told her they were a band called wolf down and that she could come to the show for free, that tobi would put her on his guest list. they laughed about the woman getting excited. when they returned to the venue they found she had contacted them on their official facebook profile. they hoaxed her and tried getting her to sext with them. when she asked about getting tobi’s private contact (because she believed talking to him all the time) they blocked and deleted her. later tobi bragged about this story to “woman 2” and showed her the whole conversation. he justified making fun of a random woman saying that “at least she had a bit of an adventure for once in her boring housewife life, writing with some hot tattooed boys”.
– sven as well as tobi are famous for contacting girls they find hot on instagram. sven once contacted a friend of ours telling her she should do a live video for him when he saw an instagram story of her running a bath. she felt disgusted by this and when sven was confronted about it he swore he didn‘t mean it “in a sexual way”, he just wanted “to make fun of her because some girls are so ridiculous posting everything they do on instagram”. he was convinced that this would make his behaviour any better.
– when sven found out i (“woman 1”) was befriending his current girlfriend he continued asking her about what we were doing together, if we met just to talk or to have a sexual relationship/watch lesbian porn together. only because we both happen to be bisexual women. he also told “woman 2” that he felt repulsed by me because i “talked too loud”, sit and walk “like a man” and happen to be interested in football.
– tobi showed me messages of an acquaintance of his asking when they could meet (for a certain purpose i forgot but that had nothing to do with any interest in him), telling me how “desperate” she obviously was to get him to date her, and that he felt pity for her.
we could go on for hours with this list. but instead we choose to let another ex-girlfriend of tobi speak, who approached us in solidarity with her story whose parallels to what we experienced with him made us weep. these are direct quotes of the messages she sent us:
“Hi, I dont know you but Larissa gave me your number. I , unfortunately, am a victim of Tobias as well. It was [year censored because of privacy concerns].It breaks my heart to see that He went on abusing women. I am shivering while reading his statement on Facebook because I cant believe a single word of what he is writing.I think everyone should have a chance to change but I Seriously believe he wont.i am terrified that he will be able to abuse more women in the future,and still be able to hang out in the hardcore scene as if nothing happened. I wish I could hug the women who wrote their Stories because for the first time I felt understood and it is terrible to know that others went through the same suffering I did. Thank you”
“it is very important for me to know that at least someone believes me. Since now I had to struggle against him completely alone as most of my former „friends“ kept thinking he is a „nice guy though“. He manipulated me constantly, made me feel like a crazy person for just being angry at what he did. We had a long distance relationship for one year. After we broke up he never left me alone. He was literally stalking me for all these years and about every 4-6 months writing me some stupid messages about being friends again that i NEVER replied,still he never stopped. Two times I found him standing in front of my door asking me if he could stay at my place. Another time i was at a show in [city censored because of privacy concerns] and he wrote me „i am here“ and there he was with some fucking flowers,even though He knew I didnt want to see his face again and I even had a boyfriend then. I had two long relationships after him and all he did was talk shit about my boyfriends and to make me feel ashamed for even being with them. For him,the biggest poser of all times, they werent cool enough.I guess i also don‘t need to say that he cheated on me more than one time. Still,while we were together he didnt even want me to hang out with only men or stuff like this because he was jealous. One month ago he wrote again trying to apologise for all that he did to me, for manipulating me and for making me go to bed with him when I didnt want to and then disappearing for months,leaving me there lonely and abused like a piece of meat. All he ever wanted from me was sex. His reason for doing this is that he’s just a poor guy coming from a sexist german family and he now learnt what feminism is.then the stories of the other two women came out and I understood what it was actually about. I wasnt surprised but surely disgusted and terrified he will forever go on like this.I met many bad people in my life but Tobi is for sure the worst human being I can imagine,under every aspect. There is no single thing in him that I would save because he’s literally just a pile of thrash. I wish people believed me back then ,when I was telling them he is an abuser and a lier because maybe all that happened afterwards wouldnt be a horrible reality. Sven tried the same with me until I realised he was just like Tobi. The two were literally sittig together asking me for nudes (that fortunately i never sent) and laughing behind my back. A former friend of them warned me that they were exchanging other girls pictures and making fun about how stupid but hot they are. Sven is just as bad as Tobi,I want the people to really see that too. I stood alone and powerless until now”
“I am really so sorry about it. This is so fucked up. Sadly, you are definitely not alone in this. I am quite sure that there are other just like me that didnt come out because of fear. […] Actually I don‘t know if I can articulate myself strong enough to make people understand, I am definitely not „well educated“ like he is. I get very nervous when I have to write something for the public as a reply to something so well written like he did. If it is okay, you could write a new post where you can also mention my story. This could be very important, I feel many people still don‘t believe a word of anything and are just sad that wolf down are now over.”
“I feel like I kept these things too long for myself.”
“What I read in words is another attempt at showing that he’s still the nice educated guy everyone knows and that he’s so smart that he will change soon. Again he wants people to defend him. […] I think the general facts that he acts like a stalker, spying you even after the relationship is gone is definitely my main point, together with the manipulation and the mental abuse followed by the physical abuse. I was lying when I was letting him into my place. I was doing it only because I was scared he would attack me mentally again. He always said I was overreacting over everything. He was lying when he was saying „i will just be next to you in bed without doing anything sexual,trust me“ and then crawling against me saying „i can‘t resist“ and touching me without my consent.It’s incredible I could go on forever, even if it hurts to take out all these memories.”we both share the third ex-girlfriend’s concerns about tobi never changing. that is the ultimate reason why we write this final statement. and because we couldn‘t let tobi get away with his phony excuses. and because we want closure now. and because we want to show every woman who was ever abused that if you speak out, you don‘t just help yourself. you most likely help so many more women to stop feeling alone, “crazy” and broken.
we want to thank every single woman that has stood up in solidarity with us. may we never forget that sisterhood is our main weapon.
Here’s the original message that blew the whistle:
To all the comrades *, wolf down fans and all the others who are concerned: keep away from tobias, one of the guitarists of the band wolf down. Several women accuse alleged sexual abuse against him. In the follow- ing, two brief reports of the two women affected. Her intention is to educate women about the risk of a relationship with tobias, to confront his behavior, and to unmask the band wolf down as what it is: a sexist masculine.
Woman I:I was in about a year with tobias together. The time is difficult to specify, since we had something “undefined”, which de facto was a monogamous relationship, I then had broken off the contact for a while, and we were then again some months in an open but clearly defined relationship. In total ran the whole but over a year, or something more.
I have a crappy background, became grosz with sexual abuse by different men in my family. Half a year before I met tobias, I was unconsciously raped by a well-known person who used the situation. I woke up from the feeling of his tail in me. Life as a woman is crappy. None of these men from my past has ever happened. Neither my attempts to speak to them, nor to seek help in my surroundings had succeeded in any of these cases. Directly to their deeds addressed the men always with “of what are you talking? I did not do anything. You’re reacting, I’ve only caressed you “(why” caresses “again an 8-year-old girl at the genitalia until it bleeds?) Or” is not true. You were not at all unconscious! “(Clearly, that’s why I did not move or speak for minutes). I want it to be different this time. It must be different this time. I have to protect other women who could come after me and I have to protect myself.
The entire time with tobias was characterized by sexualized violence and sexual acts without consensus. I do not want to go into detail here, because I am not the opinion that I have to do as a sacrifice to be taken seriously. Many people who will read this text will know who I am, and I do not want to give these people the satisfaction to learn how I have been humiliated. I say only so much: tobias did not ask if it was “no” for him “convinced me”, he did not care when I cried, told him I hurt and it did not make me a spasz, or me (also that happened A few times) in the mouth vomit. Besides, he did not even give me the chance to tell him that I did not want something because he penetrated me surprisingly, Although I had turned his back on him. I have not dared for a long time to make him an announcement to this disgusting behavior, because I have grown up, that means sex with men is mandatory. That you can not leave any wishes or claims. That one can do with oneself.
Because tobias me also not treated well (also here I countless examples, but from protection of my private sphere no desire to go into detail), I broke after about half a year to contact him. I moved to a new city where I met the woman from whom the second experience report will come. We gave each other strength and reflected together our sexual past with tobias and came to the conclusion: it is both very bad for us. Only by the feeling, not to be alone, I dared, when I spoke after about a month without contact with tobias, to make him a clear announcement. He justified himself, apologized to me, but rather to the motto, that he felt sorry for me because of my past was bad for me, For example, be beaten without consent. That it is shitty for every person to be exposed to sexualized violence, did not come to mind. Despite everything, we came together again. In this “second half” he behaved more correctly, however, we had hardly sex anymore, because he simply had no more bock, since it with him consens and watched me somehow no spasz. Three months before I concluded, I spoke to the subject again and cried very violently. He justified himself. Because he simply had no more bock, since it with him consens and watched me somehow did not spasz. Three months before I concluded, I spoke to the subject again and cried very violently. He justified himself. Because he simply had no more bock, since it with him consens and watched me somehow did not spasz. Three months before I concluded, I spoke to the subject again and cried very violently. He justified himself.
When I finally finally parted (in april), I did this with a clear announcement. I told him on the phone that I had to go with him because my mental health was incompatible with him and I was only getting worse and worse with him in the month. Towards the end of the relationship I lived with more and more flashbacks, of things he had done and which I could not process. I counted again on the phone, exactly what he had done. I howled and went to the talk puke.
Some days later I met with him in berlin, where he lives to talk. I wanted to give him a chance, and above all I hoped to stay in touch with him, to prevent him from behaving again. Besides, I was frightened at that time, to be thrown out of our common friend’s circle, I should tobias before the head stumps (which does not speak especially for the wolf downenvironment). I told him we could stay friends, and we talked for several hours about everything that had happened between us. I told him quite clearly: what you did was sex without any consens, that is, per defintion rape, even if this word is difficult to get over your lips, all the more in the context of a relationship. I told him that he stood for me in a row with the men before him, Who raped me. It was hard for him to swallow, and much that came from him was the attempt to get a better light. I was crying violently, we hugged each other – it must have been clear to him at least that day that he had created huge giant chances and hurt a person very much.
Still worked with the friendship not so right. Tobias responded irritably to my attempts to talk with him some time later about the subject, he meant he could not do more than to assure that he had changed, and I would have to drop the subject anyway. I was very bad at this time, I had to fight violently with flashbacks and suicide thoughts. Besides, there were some days at which the thoughts on him and the experienced so badly that I had to vomit. We had then again over chat contact, he was excited about the fact that I would not let go of the topic, and wrote to me that he could do nothing for the happening, because “as a Bavarian village boy nobody gave me anything consens consensus”. This sentence brought for me the barrel completely to the overflow and I blocked it everywhere. Since he had noticed that I had made a screenshot of this last statement, he tried to apologize half-heartedly, but did not reach me anymore.
I’m done with this man and with all the men who are like him. He would have valued my trust and would allow me to reflect and process the happenings together, that I would be friends with tobias, and this text would never arise. But that I had to explain to him again and again, what is respectful behavior and that he can not pull out of the affair, if he rapes a person, which I have after some weeks no longer endured. He is so madly disrespectful, writes my best friend and hardens her to get to me, partly asserts that he did not even know what it is about (I have explained to him in detail what he did Probably). I choose this last way out of despair and out of anger. Despair because I do not think he has changed, and I do not want him to hurt more women and get traumatized. Rage because I’ve protected tobias for too long and it’s time to get rid of him as what he is: a rapist and a woman’s enemy.
Woman II:
I met tobias three years ago, when I had just turned 18. He was for me from the beginning a key person in my life, since he was my first political contact and also one of the first men with whom I ever had sex. It all took me from the beginning to a dependent position. Tobias not only enjoyed politically what he thought was right, but above all my sexual anomaly was important to him because he wanted to do everything he wanted to do with me as “normal” or “the” Norm “.
das fing schon mit unserem ersten sex an, bei dem er mir eine ohrfeige gab – ohne zu fragen. ich traute mich nichtmal, das zu hinterfragen. etwa ein halbes jahr später sprach ich mit einer freundin, die auch mit ihm geschlafen hatte, und sich über genau dasselbe ausheulte. und über noch mehr. aber auch ich möchte eigentlich auf so viele details wie möglich verzichten.
Tobias was more correct with me than with woman I – he asked me the most about my understanding. I said yes to everything, and the reason for this was that I wanted to give him everything, which gave me the feeling that it was normal. It is difficult to put these feelings into words, and I hardly dare to speak so clearly of sexualised violence as woman I (except definitively in the case of the ohrfeige). However, I consider what has happened between tobias and me for a widespread problem in heterosexual sexual relations and I criticize him for the fact that through the both inherent as well as his power asymmetry produced by him, he gives me many possibilities for acting and “no” Say has taken. His distorted picture of the women was always apparent during our time together (which stretched over several years). I often felt as a sex object, and was always only as good as I was dirty (even in comparison to other women, who did not satisfy him enough of his needs). As he told me later, he often set me back with the reference to me: I would have liked everything, for me that was okay, and Frau I would just not be on his humiliation fetish, because it was psychologically broken be. To be able to always be close to him on this basis – that I was the one who liked to do everything with me – took the opportunity to set him apart. I often felt as a sex object, and was always only as good as I was dirty (even in comparison to other women, who did not satisfy him enough of his needs). As he told me later, he often set me back with the reference to me: I would have liked everything, for me that was okay, and Frau I would just not be on his humiliation fetish, because it was psychologically broken be. To be able to always be close to him on this basis – that I was the one who liked to do everything with me – took the opportunity to set him apart. I often felt as a sex object, and was always only as good as I was dirty (even in comparison to other women, who did not satisfy him enough of his needs). As he told me later, he often set me back with the reference to me: I would have liked everything, for me that was okay, and Frau I would just not be on his humiliation fetish, because it was psychologically broken be. To be able to always be close to him on this basis – that I was the one who liked to do everything with me – took the opportunity to set him apart. Often with the reference to me under pressure: I would have liked everything, for me that was okay, and woman I would just not be on his demeaning fetish, because it was psychically broken. To be able to always be close to him on this basis – that I was the one who liked to do everything with me – took the opportunity to set him apart. Often with the reference to me under pressure: I would have liked everything, for me that was okay, and woman I would just not be on his demeaning fetish, because it was psychically broken. To be able to always be close to him on this basis – that I was the one who liked to do everything with me – took the opportunity to set him apart.
I hope that through this outing maybe a few women feel encouraged to address similar problems they are struggling with, or to get rid of situations with men in the same way.
The absurd relationship with tobias lay in the fact that he, on the one hand, was a rescuer and a teacher, who educated me politically and explained to me what sexism was and how I should emancipate myself. On the other hand, at the same time, he brought me to say to all, yes and amen, what he wanted from me, since I did not feel beside him as an autonomous, strong person. In the relationship to tobias it was with me mainly about emotional abuse, which was closely interwoven with the sexual aspect, which is why I would like to join this outing. I would like to warn my comrades * before this man.
And also before the men’s wolf down I would warn. Also with the drummer, sven, I had several months contact. In this time he proved to be a serious sexist both through his statements and his behavior. I hereby waive all details to protect other persons involved.
Fight cops, nazis and wolf down!
TOGETHER, we both demand that wolfdown pull the consequences out of this outing, whatever that will be. It is clear to us that we will evaluate them as they respond to this outing. We have lost patience with mackers, sexists and rapists. Should wolf down try to justify or deny the behavior of some of their members or even ignore the accusations simply, they will not remain undisturbed. The times of the happy men’s union are over. More and more women show themselves solidarity with us, are disappointed by this oh so “political” band, and will not keep their anger to themselves. Expects that concerts will be disturbed, People in wolf down pullis addressed and this band is no longer unquestionably celebrated. Reckons with resistance to your sexist normal condition. Contra la violencia machista, autodefensa feminista! Against the machogewalt, feminist self-defense!
